Our obsession with aging

Ok, I’m not going to lie, I am getting older, everyone is getting older. Every. Single. Day.  I mean from the day you are born you age.  It’s not some secret.  It’s not like we can hide it.  So, what is it about people’s fascination with not getting old?  For example, a friend and I were looking at spa treatments.  There is this one treatment called “The Silicon Valley Celebrity Infusion” which costs $375 and says it is a treatment to reduce fine lines and wrinkles on your face and also your neck and décolleté and also your hands.  Your Hands.  YOUR HANDS.

I was recently made aware of this new obsession of the fear of aging hands when someone posted an NY Times article http://www.nytimes.com/2014/05/25/fashion/weddings/raise-your-hand-for-an-engagement-selfie.html?_r=0 on Facebook about how women are now getting engaged and married later in life and in order to have wonderful engagement ring selfie pictures to post on Facebook women are now getting extensive treatments on their hands because they don’t want their hands to look spotty, veiny or boney.  My first thought when reading this was “wait, boney body is ok.  Boney hands are a no no, fat hands are a yes?” then “OMG, my hands are boney!  Shit, does that mean I am old?”

But this new obsession with aging hands is just another drop in the bucket of the ways we criticize ourselves for doing something natural, aging.  We do everything in our power to fight the forces of nature and hold onto our youth, which is probably just 1/4th of our total existence.

At one point in time, youth was not looked upon so favorably and instead, age was cherished.  Little children were dressed as adults and wore white wigs to mask their hair color.  What happened to those days?

Why do I stress when I see a patch of grey hair showing through my perfectly highlighted hair?  Why do I run to the dermatologist to get cream to smooth out those wrinkles?  Why do I google botox and think about when I might just start doing that?  I mean, don’t get me wrong, I am all for trying to keep it together as long as you can, but it is a battle we are all going to lose.

My hand selfie - veins, bones and all

My hand selfie – veins, bones and all

Ways to keep a clean house

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I just spent 3 hours a day of my holiday weekend cleaning and picking up my house.  That’s 9 hours, people!  I find myself in a conundrum. On one hand, I can’t really relax unless my house is clean and actually find some relaxation from the act of cleaning.  It is rewarding to walk into a messy room and within an hour have it looking good. { I also, thanks to the magic of advertising, have scary thoughts of my children playing hide and go seek around my dirty toilet, oh the horror, and need to wipe down my bathroom religiously.}  And yet on the other hand, when I get home from work or want to enjoy my weekend, cleaning is the LAST thing I want to do and I get stressed out and grumpy.  So, how can I have a clean house and live in it too?

Here are some of the things I do / have done to keep my house clean, keep my sanity and enjoy time with my family.

Get a Housekeeper – not always an option, my husband and I decided it was worth the money when our first child was born.  We had someone come in twice a month for a few months and my stress level went way down while my happiness went up.  I could decide if I had time to dust that week and know if I didn’t, it would get done for me.  Having a housekeeper doesn’t need to be a long term commitment.  It can just be there when you need it.  If money is an issue, and for us it was, do some math and see how much you will get in return.  For us, $100 a month was cheaper than couples counseling 🙂

Get a dog – no really, get a dog.  We now have two kids and I never ever have to clean up after them when they eat.  I have two dogs who are more than happy to get that job done for me.  This is a huge bonus of dog ownership!  Our dogs give us love, companionship, exercise, security (we have a BIG dog), and now cleaning sessions.  We are constantly reminded how lucky we are to have dogs every time we go to someone else’s house and find ourselves down on our hands and knees cleaning up food.

Get a battery powered handheld…vacuum – taking out a vacuum to clean up small messes is a chore.  Getting a broom and dust pan out to get that little spill is a pain.  Grabbing a hand held vacuum and being done in under 3 minutes, priceless.

Clean up as you go – this is a no brainer but not so easy to do.  You have to make a conscious decision to clean as you go.  When you make a mess, clean it up right after.  That way messes don’t have time to build on each other and create a mega mess.  After you clean up your mess, take a second to thank mom who tried her hardest to teach us this lesson when we were young, even though it didn’t work then.

Pick something to clean every day – I learned this from Martha Stewart and laughed when I read it.  Yeah right, Martha, cleaning the bathroom on a Wednesday night sounds like loads of fun.  But you know what is loads of fun, not cleaning a bathroom on the weekend.  Cleaning something every day keeps you from having to clean everything in one day.  Do laundry one night, dust the living room one night while your watching TV, wipe down the tub one time after your little one takes a bath and is brushing their teeth.  Try it.  I was able to let go of my housekeeper when I implemented this way of keeping a clean house.

Enlist your family – don’t do it alone.  If you’re cleaning, they need to do something to help.  It will make it go faster.  Vacuuming for example, have someone pick up the floor and someone else vacuum.

“Put some Windex” – find yourself a multi-purpose cleaner that you can use on almost everything and keep it handy.  I use Windex on everything: my floors, my cabinets, my tables, my counter tops, my mirrors, my Ikea furniture etc etc.  It’s great for quick touch up jobs in between cleans and I can literally walk from room to room with a bottle and rag and go crazy.